• How To Apologize To The Knitting Community

    1. Post a picture of a serene scene on Instagram. If you can't think of anything appropriate that no one will take offense to, just place your finger over the camera lens and post the resulting blank image.

    2. Acknowledge your humanity. No one knows you are a human, so first you must point out that you are human, imperfect, and prone to mistakes. 

    3. Acknowledge that the work you have been doing isn't enough. You are not enough. Your business isn't enough. And it never will be. 

    4. Acknowledge that you have hurt people unknowingly. It doesn't matter what your intention was. It doesn't matter if you've just been diagnosed with a life-threatening condition. It doesn't matter if your business was built to appeal to a specific audience. All that matters is the hurt feelings from strangers who don't know you and could care less about you.

    5. Acknowledge that change is uncomfortable, and you are willing to live with that discomfort. Tell everyone how humbled you are. Bonus: this is a great signal to your virtue.

    6. Thank the brave individuals who have pointed out your mistakes and link to their profiles if you can, so others can continue to support them. Do not ever disagree with them. They are sovereign and know more than you, especially if they rank high on the intersectional scale. Even if they have no idea how hard you've worked, who you might donate money to, and what your beliefs are, listen to them and prostrate yourself before them. Thank them for the emotional labor that they shouldn't have to be doing. It's not their job to educate you. Do the work yourself. 

    7. Openly share which organizations you will be donating to in future, as penance for your mistakes. Openly state that you will specifically be selecting BIPOC models, makers, designers, writers, and activists for positions in your company, or as representatives for your brand (even if you have more qualified candidates for these positions). You must discriminate based on race in order to show how anti-racist you are. 

    8. Continue to acknowledge and admit to your own racism. Spend the next few weeks or months sharing pictures of BIPOC on your profile. Continue to tell everyone how beautiful they are, even if this is self-evident. The fact that you never pointed out their beauty and importance before shows how racist you are. This is good and healthy to admit to. 

    9. When people come to you asking for further proof of the work you are doing, continue to submit to them. Remember, you will never be good enough. Keep repeating that to yourself. Don't be afraid to be uncomfortable.

    10. Question everything. Walking on eggshells is healthy and is a great way to be truly authentic and creative. You may even want to spend what little profit you make in hiring a moderator (preferably a BIPOC) just to make sure nothing you say or do will ever be offensive. 

  • Comments on this post (28 comments)

    • Maria says...

      Nancy, loved your comment. I read the article by BJ Campbell and found it very interesting. Here is an idea that I liked:
      “The only path I see to a better tomorrow is to eliminate the prejudice itself, and then the power won’t matter. "
      So, so true in my opinion. I like to think that individual actions and attitudes matter and I can only be responsible for mine.

      Have been reading some of the comments (on instagram) and it is obvious to me that people who disagree and who refuse to buy into collective guilt/privilege/oppression are being silenced by being called racist. The whole thing seems backwards.

      May 05, 2019

    • Janine says...

      Absolute riot! Preach!!

      May 04, 2019

    • Nancy says...

      I could not understand how we got to this place of what can only be described as insanity towards initially like minded individuals in our love of knitting. I did my own research independent of what I was ‘told’ to research by those malicious malcontents. An article that really helped me grasp the great divide was ‘The Two Confusing Definitions of Racism’ by BJ Campbell on Medium.com. I believe I am personally responsible for my achievements and the treatment of others, period. To ‘create equality’ by righting all the past wrongs forcefully is to ignore the individual struggle and trials along the way to that achievement regardless of the past. This kerfuffle was never about racism, it’s always been about power.

      May 04, 2019

    • Ellen says...

      Keep on keepin’ on! You are sharing truth, as are the many like-minded commenters here. I’m so glad to see that there are rational people standing up to the cry-bullies, or at least letting the rest of us know that not everyone accepts their bs. Hang in there!

      May 04, 2019

    • Tina Menard says...

      This is on point! I will continue to buy your yarn business because you speak truth. The yarn I have purchased from you is very beautiful and lovely to knit with. Keep being you!

      May 04, 2019

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