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  • Advice To Anyone Who Has Been Silent (WE SEE YOU)

    1. No one is forcing you to do anything, make any public statements of allegiance, or threatening you if you decide to disagree. You are completely free to do or say whatever you like. Yes, we will go after you and attempt to destroy you if you disagree, but this is just a consequence of your misguided actions. The fault is not ours. You asked for it.

    2. If you follow someone who follows someone who follows someone who has shown themselves to be problematic, be sure to contact them and make them aware of this. Tell them plainly and simply that you will unfollow them if they do not unfollow these problematic people. 

    3. It's a good idea to edit your profile to include virtue signals such as your preferred pronouns, stating your account is a "safe place", and/or your support of Ravelry. This won't protect you, but it's a good place to start. Though, bear in mind that if you do these things, and then do say something that others take offense to, the online mobbing you will be subject to could be even more vicious. 

    4. Make sure you hire a therapist now. You never know who the next target will be, so you will want to be sure you have help to get you through it in case you are next. Of course, admitting to mental health struggles will just be a sign of your white fragility (whether you’re white or not), privilege, or huge ego etc., so you probably don't want to talk about this online ever. We will use this against you and send you further into depression.

    5. Don’t assume that your intersectional points will win you any support or excuse you. In fact, once you say you disagree with us (even in just the slightest), where you land on the intersectional scale is irrelevant and you will be taken down regardless. You should know by now that all we want is power and destruction, and do not have compassion for those we claim to be the voices of.

    6. If you prefer to do "the work" outside of Instagram and social media, you are free to do so. But this does not mean you should abandon social media. This is today, and today social media is where revolutions are happening. This is where real change happens and you cannot ignore your duties here. You leaving social media or stating you wish to do the "the work" in the real world is just a very clear sign of your weakness, fragility and privilege. We have done so much work already (such as destroying hateful businesses, smearing reputations, and causing emotional breakdowns and depression in those who deserve it), but this is just the beginning. We have the power to peacefully destroy even more on social media. We might even need to destroy you if need be. So, do not leave it. 

    7. I've mentioned this before, but you really need to keep questioning yourself and doubting yourself. Are you really an ally?

  • Our 1940's Portland Courthouse Wedding

    Saying our vows at the Multnomah County Courthouse. Our judge, Angel Lopez, was really great and personable. And he laughed when he saw our last name, which put us and our families at ease. I was so excited and a bit giddy, and said "I do" before I was supposed to. 
    On the stairs at the courthouse, just after taking our vows. 
    Garrett's uncle went and rented a scooter for us. We wound up just using it for some cute pictures rather than actually riding around town. Having never used an electric scooter before, I was a bit worried I'd crash it.
    We reserved Barlow, a super neat little bar/restaurant just a few blocks from the courthouse for our reception. We had our vintage music playing and got to do a little dancing. Our first dance was technically "In The Mood" by Glen Miller. We all went out dancing later that night at the Secret Society in Portland. 
    I made my dress from a 1940's pattern I bought from a seller on Etsy. I'm planning on doing an entire YouTube video on my outfit soon, so if you're interested keep an eye out for that!
    It was seriously the happiest day of my life, and I wouldn't change a thing!
  • Fill Your Soul

    We have each made the choice to sign up for Facebook, Instagram, Google, Ravelry etc. We have all made the choice to share our information, our talents, our opinions, our businesses with these companies. We have handed over control. And now what?

    I’m not sure the answer lies in a new platform apart from the big companies. Though, I know how important community is. (If you would like to join a new knitting community of truly inclusive and warm-hearted knitters, come on over to ourunraveled.com. It was just set up and is still a work in progress, but I'm thankful someone has made the effort to do this!)

    I think each of us needs to step away from social media somewhat. It feeds off hate and disagreement and controversy. I know it’s hard to look away. Hard to think how our businesses can survive without it. But I truly believe if we all stepped away, we’d make it somehow. We’d support each other. We’d find other avenues for gaining customers and support. And it wouldn’t be driven by algorithms. It wouldn’t be controlled or censored. Remember blogs? 

    We need to fill our hearts, minds, and souls with nature, music, laughter, literature, love. 

    Listen to Vivaldi or Handel and close your eyes and picture whatever it is that the music makes you think of. There are endless stories in their sounds. 

    Go to the library and fill your arms with books. Spend the day flipping through them and deciding which to read first.

    Sit outside and look as far in the distance as you can. Stretch your eyes. 

    Edit: and then JP Sears put out this video, and made me laugh at myself a bit. Always a good thing!